Chapter 1,230: Will His Temper Change?

Her thoughts went back to the time when the conflict between him and Ye Hao broke out nine years ago. She could still clearly remember everything that happened at that time, her emotions of collapse and her helplessness of not having a choice. However, what Professor Lan said was correct. Some of her actions were indeed without consideration. She probably did not realize that he would be so sensitive at the time, and they did not communicate well, which led to more and more conflicts and deeper misunderstandings. .

"Dr. Lan, I understand what you mean." He Xiyan took a deep breath. In fact, she only knew that she had problems in those two marriages.

Professor Lan nodded.

"It is indeed wrong for him to do something to you or even your child. This also shows that your ex-husband has a bad temper and he cannot handle his emotions. When he encounters emotional problems, it is even more obvious. He is extremely insecure. Therefore, he uses cold violence to gain the other person's attention and at the same time vent his dissatisfaction. When the cold violence still cannot suppress his inner anger, he will turn from cold violence to direct violence. This is why he beats people. . He was out of control at the moment he hit someone."

Professor Lan used her professional knowledge to analyze.

He Xiyan frowned at this moment and looked at Professor Lan.

"Dr. Lan, do you think his temper will change?" He Xiyan is very aware of Ye Hao's bad character and temper. When he is with him, what he fears most is that he will be angry, because he always likes Cold war, don't like communication.

Professor Lan couldn't help but sigh, and she shook her head.

He Xiyan was stunned.

"Can't change it?" she asked again.

Professor Lan, "It's easy to change a person's nature, but hard to change. I can only say that it is difficult to change, especially since he is no longer young, and his character and temperament have been determined for a long time. Of course, it is not absolute. If he realizes these things about himself, If you make mistakes and are willing to correct them subconsciously, you may be able to make some improvements. However, no matter when and for whatever reason, when we encounter this kind of domestic violence from men, we must respond with the greatest resistance, especially the first one. Once. To make the other party completely wake up from this first "accidental" and "reckless" behavior, accept severe punishment, and conduct deep introspection, so that they can really suffer for a few days and remember it for a long time, it is best to The law of survival that can never be changed is the law of survival in the animal world. The timid is afraid of the bold, and the bold is also applicable to marriage and family. Afraid of death, men have the advantage of strength to commit violence, so women must also have the ability to fight back. "

"Take your experience as an example. You did not resist when you encountered this kind of domestic violence twice, but you were just sad and sad by yourself. This did not make your then-husband feel that his behavior might There will be no serious consequences, so he doesn't feel scared. If you rush out directly, or even ignore him for a few days, and make him feel that he will lose you afterwards, then he may feel scared next time. There will be some scruples.”

He Xiyan listened to Professor Lan's words. She clasped her hands and blinked her eyes from time to time. She was thinking about something, some questions that she had never thought about.