Chapter 288

"I asked you to repeat this sentence just now. In addition to telling yourself, you should also tell the people around you and your husband. You must tell them with strength and determination that you really think so." Ning Youguang said, "In this way, you will gradually establish a correct self-awareness, you will know that you are a good person who deserves to be loved, you don't need the approval of an idealized partner, you will instinctively know what you want, and Go after it hard. In this way, you will not be controlled by others, or easily brainwashed."

"At the same time, while we are getting rid of the manipulation of others, we have to reconnect with ourselves. The method of connecting with ourselves can choose some kind of physical and mental activities, such as yoga, or other forms of dynamic meditation. These activities are based on a The system of quieting your mind and courageously accepting your deepest self—not through discussion, analysis, and imagination, but through active activities that integrate body and mind. When you go back, you can choose to sign up for classes at the gym or yoga center, or If you just want to try meditation, I can send you a few audios. Follow my audios to find a quiet environment, sit quietly for 15-30 minutes a day, pay attention to breathing, and let distracting thoughts slowly dissipate. After a while, you will find I became calmer than before, more connected to my body and mind, and more resistant to stress."

"I find it difficult." Liang Yiyi couldn't help but feel scared when she thought of how she resisted her husband, and the violent quarrels and beatings that happened at home when the two had conflicts.

"It's not easy." Ning Youguang said, "Many times, when we make a good choice, it will actually bring about many negative effects, such as uneasiness, fear and sadness. It is difficult, but we face it bravely. Feelings will disappear, and what we will gain is a complete self."

Liang Yiyi was silent for a while, then said to Ning Youguang, "Please tell me what I should do."

"The steps are very simple. You only need to do these points to regain the initiative in your life and get rid of your husband's control."

"Mr. Ning, please wait." Liang Yiyi turned to look at her daughter, "Lele, lend me your notebook and pen."

Liang Yule quickly took out the notebook and notebook from his bag and handed them to her.

"Doctor Ning, please speak slowly, and I will write it down carefully."

"Okay." Ning Youguang said with a smile——

"1. When you go back, record the conversation between you and your husband, and listen to it several times, and you will find that the logic of many of his words does not make sense."

"2. If you have any doubts in the relationship, you can talk to me or your trusted friends and relatives. Don't close your external information channels."

"3. Pay close attention to your own feelings. You may not be able to see through his expression and emotional abuse, but you must know how you feel, whether it is comfortable or uncomfortable."

"4. Once a conflict occurs, separate from him immediately, don't continue to entangle with him, don't be disturbed by his negative emotions, and let yourself be wrapped in the trash can of negative emotions."

"5. Stick to your own cognition, you have to believe that what you do is right, especially when you get along with him, you have to remember to always say these three sentences to him—"

"I know that's your point of view, but I have mine and I don't agree with your point of view, please respect me."

"I have a different opinion than you!"

"That's your cognition, our cognition is different, you are right, and I am also right." 1314